One of the toughest parts of an unplanned pregnancy is that you may sometimes feel judgment from others when you tell them that you are expecting. Sometimes this judgment comes from parents or other family members, sometimes it comes from friends or coworkers. Regardless of the source of the judgment, it is hurtful. An unplanned pregnancy is such a complicated situation already, and you don’t need to feel any sense of judgment or shame on top of your other emotions.
Before you even begin to tell people about the pregnancy, it is so important to remind yourself of your inherent worth and dignity. Your actions do not define you, and neither does your past. What you do moving forward -- how you respond to your situation -- is what matters now. Remembering that your worth is inherent and not dependent on what you do will give you strength as you prepare to have potentially difficult conversations.
It can also be helpful to gather as much information as you can about what you plan to do. People will likely ask questions, and you’ll feel more confident in how you respond if you have thought through your options and answered your own questions first. If someone asks you something and you don’t know the answer, that’s okay. You don’t need to have every little detail figured out right away. Don’t be afraid to say “I’m not sure yet.”
If you are facing particularly difficult conversations where you expect judgment, know that Birth Choice is here for you to help you think through how to share your news and respond to others. At your appointment, we not only confirm your pregnancy, but we also have trained client advocates who sit with you to discuss your options and help you work through potentially difficult conversations. You are always welcome to call and schedule a free and confidential appointment. Call 214-631-2402.
And of course, remember that this is your life and your decision, and no one can take that away from you. If you are feeling any pressure to do a certain thing, please call Birth Choice for help: 214-631-2402.